Confession time. I love summer in the city. Not that I love the city in the summer. I just love how the city empties out. I'm figuring I can be a bit ornery here today since so many of you have skipped town for the week. Thanks. Here's how it is for me. I love the country, mountains, nature, trees, the outdoors, and all the rest of it. It might be because I'm originally from Vermont - I'm New English - or because I spent three months a year in the mountains every year from the time that I was zero until college. Or, I just love it. I prefer being outdoors to being indoors anytime. Whatever the case may be (again - I'm taking liberties here today because I figure most of you are on vaca) so what I try and do is make sure that I get to spend as much of every day as possible outside. I also love the city - I love the culture, the energy, the opportunities, but I can't stand it when it's too too crowded which is.....always. So what do I do? I stick around the city when everyone packs out and crowds the country and shore and I head out to the country and shore when everyone comes back.
So the thing is that different people like different things different ways, which is really the point of my work and my approach to it. What is it that you like? Want? How do you want it? What's the best way for you to get it? I had a terrific conversation yesterday with the wonderful writer/person/parent Gina Roberts-Grey and we talked about lots of things including the ins and outs of coaching for an article she's working on. (Check out her work and articles - you'll learn a lot!)
I tried to explain my approach to working with people and the different kinds of coaching different people need. With some clients it's the HopStop.com approach. Where are you? Where do you want to go? How much do you want to use transportation and how much are you willing to walk? The person knows where they are and where they want to get to, they just need some assistance with the logistics. So we map out a route and take it from there.
With some clients it's more of the AAA (American Automobile Association) approach. I'm here and I'd like to travel to there but I need a roadmap, some places along the way to stop, figure out the most scenic/quickest/fill in the ________ route. Should I use my car? Should I drive part of the way and take the train? Should I fly and ride? Should I rent a car at my destination? All of the details about the best way to do it for what the person would like.
With some clients it's more of the travel agent approach. Hmmmm, I know I need to get out of town but I have no idea where I'd like to go! Do I want a hot climate? Cold? How do I want to get there? How long do I want it to take? These are all the questions that come into play. That takes longer.
So the short answer to "what kind of coaching is best/would work for me/do I need?" is that it depends on what you want and what the best way is for you to get it.
Enjoy the day, wherever you are!!!!!!
Rebecca Kiki
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Daily Life Consulting
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Showing posts with label Coaching. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Coaching. Show all posts
Tuesday, July 1, 2008
Thursday, January 10, 2008
A Welcoming Note - General Info and Answers to Questions
Hi to all and thanks for your emails, thoughts and questions!
During the last couple of weeks I've gotten an unprecendented amount of emails from many of you as well as visitors to the blog. Some of you I know as clients, workshop and seminar attendees or professional colleagues. Some of you are people I'm hearing from for the first time who've found me and the blog through a friend, article, the internet or just luck! So I just want to take a moment to say "hi" and tell you about Kick Start Self Coaching (http://kickstartselfcoaching.blogspot.com)
The blog originally started as a way for me to communicate with my clients. To answer questions that I've gotten from clients, workshop and seminar participants and others regarding issues that have come up, articles that I read that I think would be interesting and/or helpful. Some clients like to have contact between sessions and this was a way for them to "check in" and see what's going on besides their personal contact.
To the people who haven't yet met me it sounds like I can't possibly do all of these things but those who know me know that as annoying as that may make me sometimes(to some), I do. Simply, since I am interdisciplinary and multidisciplinary by training and experience (and temperament)in Education, Guidance and Counseling, Education and Government Program Development and Training, Mental Health, Writing, Drama, Creativity and Community Building and Organizing in Youth Development and Integration (a short bio is at http://www.dailylifeconsulting.com/kiki1.html) coaching areas include -
Transitions
Careers
Education
Work/Life Balance
Time Management/Stress Management
Burnout
On the Creativity front they include -
Writing
Writing Blocks
Unlocking Creative Blocks
Creativity Coaching
and Storytelling (character analysis, story analysis, script and story coaching and doctoring).
On the program front they include -
Finding Focus
Finding Focus/Career
Finding Focus/Career Transitions.
Finding Focus/Writing
Finding Focus/Creativity
Work/Life Symmetry
TIERS(c)Coaching (Temperament, Intellect, Expectations, Reality, Satisfaction
Work/Life Symmetry
The Daily Life Coaching 4 Kids http://dailylifecoaching4kids.blogspot.com and Running Snail Educational Consulting and Edutainment are pretty much what they sound like based on my education, training and experience in teaching,developing, creating and implementing programs and entertainment/edutainment for children.
Having said that, this week I got a lot of responses to the posts about the Falling Down Professions article in the NY Times and it's been great hearing from all of you. I have been thinking through program ideas directed specifically to these two professions - doctors and lawyers - and will keep you posted but in the meantime Transition Coaching or Burnout Coaching are two great options for you.
Meanwhile, keep your email questions and comments coming - I'm always happy and interested to hear from you. I'll answer them in as timely a manner as possible. During the week you can expect a 1-2 day response time, over the weekend it would be a longer response time - but I will answer.
Having said all that
No, I don't do it all at once.
No it didn't happen in an instant.
Yes. I love it. All the topics at different times.
Yes. It takes planning and training and being able to integrate and separate different areas.
Yes. I love hearing from you.
No. My current area of study is actually in a different, although related field.
Yes. I intend to keep on keepin' on.
And like I always tell people - so much of what I needed to know about coaching I learned by teaching first grade (not to mention non-english speaking immigrant first-graders). You take it one step at a time. You keep on trying until you get it right. You build from one experience to another and add to your knowledge bank. You ask lots of questions. You try new things. You fail. You try again. Then you start again with something else. You grow and you learn. You learn as you grow and you grow as you learn.
Have a great day,
Rebecca Kiki
During the last couple of weeks I've gotten an unprecendented amount of emails from many of you as well as visitors to the blog. Some of you I know as clients, workshop and seminar attendees or professional colleagues. Some of you are people I'm hearing from for the first time who've found me and the blog through a friend, article, the internet or just luck! So I just want to take a moment to say "hi" and tell you about Kick Start Self Coaching (http://kickstartselfcoaching.blogspot.com)
The blog originally started as a way for me to communicate with my clients. To answer questions that I've gotten from clients, workshop and seminar participants and others regarding issues that have come up, articles that I read that I think would be interesting and/or helpful. Some clients like to have contact between sessions and this was a way for them to "check in" and see what's going on besides their personal contact.
To the people who haven't yet met me it sounds like I can't possibly do all of these things but those who know me know that as annoying as that may make me sometimes(to some), I do. Simply, since I am interdisciplinary and multidisciplinary by training and experience (and temperament)in Education, Guidance and Counseling, Education and Government Program Development and Training, Mental Health, Writing, Drama, Creativity and Community Building and Organizing in Youth Development and Integration (a short bio is at http://www.dailylifeconsulting.com/kiki1.html) coaching areas include -
Transitions
Careers
Education
Work/Life Balance
Time Management/Stress Management
Burnout
On the Creativity front they include -
Writing
Writing Blocks
Unlocking Creative Blocks
Creativity Coaching
and Storytelling (character analysis, story analysis, script and story coaching and doctoring).
On the program front they include -
Finding Focus
Finding Focus/Career
Finding Focus/Career Transitions.
Finding Focus/Writing
Finding Focus/Creativity
Work/Life Symmetry
TIERS(c)Coaching (Temperament, Intellect, Expectations, Reality, Satisfaction
Work/Life Symmetry
The Daily Life Coaching 4 Kids http://dailylifecoaching4kids.blogspot.com and Running Snail Educational Consulting and Edutainment are pretty much what they sound like based on my education, training and experience in teaching,developing, creating and implementing programs and entertainment/edutainment for children.
Having said that, this week I got a lot of responses to the posts about the Falling Down Professions article in the NY Times and it's been great hearing from all of you. I have been thinking through program ideas directed specifically to these two professions - doctors and lawyers - and will keep you posted but in the meantime Transition Coaching or Burnout Coaching are two great options for you.
Meanwhile, keep your email questions and comments coming - I'm always happy and interested to hear from you. I'll answer them in as timely a manner as possible. During the week you can expect a 1-2 day response time, over the weekend it would be a longer response time - but I will answer.
Having said all that
No, I don't do it all at once.
No it didn't happen in an instant.
Yes. I love it. All the topics at different times.
Yes. It takes planning and training and being able to integrate and separate different areas.
Yes. I love hearing from you.
No. My current area of study is actually in a different, although related field.
Yes. I intend to keep on keepin' on.
And like I always tell people - so much of what I needed to know about coaching I learned by teaching first grade (not to mention non-english speaking immigrant first-graders). You take it one step at a time. You keep on trying until you get it right. You build from one experience to another and add to your knowledge bank. You ask lots of questions. You try new things. You fail. You try again. Then you start again with something else. You grow and you learn. You learn as you grow and you grow as you learn.
Have a great day,
Rebecca Kiki
Wednesday, October 24, 2007
Coaching and Orthopedic Medicine
Huh? Yes I know what you're thinking. Something like "huh"? I get lots of emails asking what goes on in coaching and how I could coach in so many different areas and with people of different ages and how is it different than the one-size-fits-all and do-these-ten-things-and-your-
life/career/schooling/creativity/relationship-will-be-completely-fixed-and perfect. I never would have thought of Orthopedic Medicine as a metaphor to describe the coaching I do except that I broke my foot and had the opportunity of spending time in the Orthopedist's office and see the things that he does. First of all my deepest gratitude, respect and thanks to my doctor. He is the best.
So the waiting room is jam packed, I take my usual spot right near the door, take the latest issue of Outside magazine and wait. People of all ages, shapes and sizes come in. From senior citizens to juniors in high school to babies. People in lots of pain, moderate amounts of pain or discomfort. People walking in on crutches, being wheeled in in wheelchairs, walking unassisted but limping, walking in leaning on someone else. People at all stages of their injuries, just happened yesterday, fell last year but still bothering me, healing very well and even a pair of mirror injuries.
What's different about everyone there? The people are all different, at different stages of their lives, the circumstances that brought them there are different, the injuries are different, the way that they'll heal is different, what they'll need to heal will vary, how long it will take them to heal will vary.
What's the same about everyone there? For the most part the people's internal musculature is the same, bones, ligaments all the internal stuff we can't see.
What else is the same? The doctor's knowledge of that internal network and the ways to figure out what's wrong and how to fix it. How to get people back on their way. Whatever way that was/is and whatever way they want that to be going forward.
Not everyone came in there needing to be able to walk for hours and hours every day like I do. Some people might have come in because they want to do the Ironman (I've often wished I wanted to....) some people might just want more range of motion, flexibility, to lessen pain, to increase mobility and on and on.
I didn't even know how many things an orthopedist does until I left and took a look at my receipt. It was a full page of all the different areas and treatments that a patient might need treatment for. Truly I had no idea. The doctor is trained to know those areas, the injuries, how to detect them and how to treat them. Everyone left his office in better shape then they were when they came in.
How does that relate to coaching and TIER(c) coaching in particular? Well, I work with people of all different ages, at different stages of their lives, who come in with different life experiences and want different things moving forward. How could that possibly be one-size-fit-all? How could there possibly be a magic bullet that works for everyone? Believe me I wish there were, I would have tried it myself years ago.
The TIER(c)system is an outgrowth of my training and experience as an educator, mental health professional, director, planner and developer of programs, the creative arts and a vast vast insatiable curiosity about people, what they want and how to help them get it. TIER(c) stands for Temperament, Intellect/Intelligence, Expectations and Reality. Everyone has different combinations of them and they work in different measures at different stages and depending on what people want.
One of the great challenges for most people is figuring out what it is that they want. For example last week I was speaking to a journalist for an article on work satisfaction. She asked terrific questions and mentioned the one-size-fits-all how-to articles about how to know when to quit a job. I was telling her about two of my clients who work at the same company and are struggling with that issue in their lives yet the coaching experience is so different for both of them. One of them is at her job as a stopgap, she's focusing on building a business on the outside and needs her current job to support her until then. Her level of tolerance for unpleasantness is much higher than the other woman who is searching for meaningful work, thought she'd found it and now realizes that she was looking for something else.
With one client the coaching task is to manage the discomfort and continue to have energy and drive to build her business. The other client's task is to explore alternatives and not take any measures until such time as she's able to do what she needs to do and know what that is.
Using the TIER(c) system we find out WHO you are, WHAT you like and want, WHERE you want to go, WHEN you'd like to be there and HOW you're best able to get there. Whether that's work/career, transition, education, creativity whatever your unique set of circumstances and desires are.
(Yes, yes it's that all I needed to know about coaching I learned by teaching first grade again - can't seem to get away from that.)
Coaching helps you manage your life today, explore your dreams, options and wishes for the future, focus on the tasks necessary to achieve them, and get you on your feet to, and into, the life you want to lead!
Enjoy the day!
RK
life/career/schooling/creativity/relationship-will-be-completely-fixed-and perfect. I never would have thought of Orthopedic Medicine as a metaphor to describe the coaching I do except that I broke my foot and had the opportunity of spending time in the Orthopedist's office and see the things that he does. First of all my deepest gratitude, respect and thanks to my doctor. He is the best.
So the waiting room is jam packed, I take my usual spot right near the door, take the latest issue of Outside magazine and wait. People of all ages, shapes and sizes come in. From senior citizens to juniors in high school to babies. People in lots of pain, moderate amounts of pain or discomfort. People walking in on crutches, being wheeled in in wheelchairs, walking unassisted but limping, walking in leaning on someone else. People at all stages of their injuries, just happened yesterday, fell last year but still bothering me, healing very well and even a pair of mirror injuries.
What's different about everyone there? The people are all different, at different stages of their lives, the circumstances that brought them there are different, the injuries are different, the way that they'll heal is different, what they'll need to heal will vary, how long it will take them to heal will vary.
What's the same about everyone there? For the most part the people's internal musculature is the same, bones, ligaments all the internal stuff we can't see.
What else is the same? The doctor's knowledge of that internal network and the ways to figure out what's wrong and how to fix it. How to get people back on their way. Whatever way that was/is and whatever way they want that to be going forward.
Not everyone came in there needing to be able to walk for hours and hours every day like I do. Some people might have come in because they want to do the Ironman (I've often wished I wanted to....) some people might just want more range of motion, flexibility, to lessen pain, to increase mobility and on and on.
I didn't even know how many things an orthopedist does until I left and took a look at my receipt. It was a full page of all the different areas and treatments that a patient might need treatment for. Truly I had no idea. The doctor is trained to know those areas, the injuries, how to detect them and how to treat them. Everyone left his office in better shape then they were when they came in.
How does that relate to coaching and TIER(c) coaching in particular? Well, I work with people of all different ages, at different stages of their lives, who come in with different life experiences and want different things moving forward. How could that possibly be one-size-fit-all? How could there possibly be a magic bullet that works for everyone? Believe me I wish there were, I would have tried it myself years ago.
The TIER(c)system is an outgrowth of my training and experience as an educator, mental health professional, director, planner and developer of programs, the creative arts and a vast vast insatiable curiosity about people, what they want and how to help them get it. TIER(c) stands for Temperament, Intellect/Intelligence, Expectations and Reality. Everyone has different combinations of them and they work in different measures at different stages and depending on what people want.
One of the great challenges for most people is figuring out what it is that they want. For example last week I was speaking to a journalist for an article on work satisfaction. She asked terrific questions and mentioned the one-size-fits-all how-to articles about how to know when to quit a job. I was telling her about two of my clients who work at the same company and are struggling with that issue in their lives yet the coaching experience is so different for both of them. One of them is at her job as a stopgap, she's focusing on building a business on the outside and needs her current job to support her until then. Her level of tolerance for unpleasantness is much higher than the other woman who is searching for meaningful work, thought she'd found it and now realizes that she was looking for something else.
With one client the coaching task is to manage the discomfort and continue to have energy and drive to build her business. The other client's task is to explore alternatives and not take any measures until such time as she's able to do what she needs to do and know what that is.
Using the TIER(c) system we find out WHO you are, WHAT you like and want, WHERE you want to go, WHEN you'd like to be there and HOW you're best able to get there. Whether that's work/career, transition, education, creativity whatever your unique set of circumstances and desires are.
(Yes, yes it's that all I needed to know about coaching I learned by teaching first grade again - can't seem to get away from that.)
Coaching helps you manage your life today, explore your dreams, options and wishes for the future, focus on the tasks necessary to achieve them, and get you on your feet to, and into, the life you want to lead!
Enjoy the day!
RK
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