The blog/s will be moving to betterthinkagain.com soon but didn't want to let this one go by. Excellent article by Eilene Zimmerman in tomorrow's NY Times Career Couch column - and look for my comments as Rebecca Weingarten.
Career Couch
When Stress Flirts With Burnout
By EILENE ZIMMERMAN
Published: January 16, 2010
Q. You are a professional who is accustomed to stress, but all the uncertainty and anxiety in the workplace these days is putting you under more pressure than usual. You feel burned out — are you?
See you all soon on "Better Think Again" betterthinkagain.com soon (play on words intended)
Rebecca (Kiki)
http://www.dlcecc.com
Showing posts with label New York Times. Show all posts
Showing posts with label New York Times. Show all posts
Saturday, January 16, 2010
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Starting Over, With a Second Career Goal - NY Times
Terrific article about second careers and a new program at Harvard read it here - Starting Over, With a Second Career Goal of Changing Society. What makes me especially thrilled about all of this is that it's what I've been working on for the last couple of....how long has it been? And I'm really glad that now that there's critical mass with the Boomers starting to do it. Well, as the Boomers go so goes the nation.
As with many things I found myself ahead of the times which is difficult in its own right but so be it. Although I'm not near retirement age and quite frankly don't imagine I'll ever retire - I'll just keep going until the very end - it's something I've given a lot of thought to since I first began working. As early as 21 when I first worked with people who were near retirement or who had retired and I didn't like what I saw. Most floundered, some absolutely fell apart, some became severely depressed, some floundered and then found the next stage in their lives. They were all blindsided by the experience and the psychological as well as social and professional identity shifts that they experienced. One of my great role models is a mentor who is working at 91! She's in her second very successful career and she maintains that her longevity is due to her continued working!
I've been leading trainings, seminars and workshops on Second Career, Transitions and ACT II topics for a while now and I have to say it's some of my most gratifying work.I even mention it when working with college students because the world of work is a very different one for them than for any generation before them. I guess it's a lot like my very first job of teaching young children how to adapt and flourish in a new environment - shcool. I guess this would be teaching Early Second Careers. It's a new beginning - a new way of experiencing the world. I love it. And I'm glad that finally the world is catching up. Whew!
Enjoy the day and think of a positive and wonderful future because it's available to you if you want it - and of course work toward it.
RK
Rebecca "Kiki"
*************************
DLC Executive and Career Consulting
646.468.0608
As with many things I found myself ahead of the times which is difficult in its own right but so be it. Although I'm not near retirement age and quite frankly don't imagine I'll ever retire - I'll just keep going until the very end - it's something I've given a lot of thought to since I first began working. As early as 21 when I first worked with people who were near retirement or who had retired and I didn't like what I saw. Most floundered, some absolutely fell apart, some became severely depressed, some floundered and then found the next stage in their lives. They were all blindsided by the experience and the psychological as well as social and professional identity shifts that they experienced. One of my great role models is a mentor who is working at 91! She's in her second very successful career and she maintains that her longevity is due to her continued working!
I've been leading trainings, seminars and workshops on Second Career, Transitions and ACT II topics for a while now and I have to say it's some of my most gratifying work.I even mention it when working with college students because the world of work is a very different one for them than for any generation before them. I guess it's a lot like my very first job of teaching young children how to adapt and flourish in a new environment - shcool. I guess this would be teaching Early Second Careers. It's a new beginning - a new way of experiencing the world. I love it. And I'm glad that finally the world is catching up. Whew!
Enjoy the day and think of a positive and wonderful future because it's available to you if you want it - and of course work toward it.
RK
Rebecca "Kiki"
*************************
DLC Executive and Career Consulting
646.468.0608
Monday, July 7, 2008
Age of Riches - Challenges of $600-a-Session Patients - NY Times
The question "what do you think?" is usually a loaded question for me because I usually have a number of thoughts and opinions, sometimes contradicting, on issues.
So to J, M, C, and R who emailed me links to the article in the New York Times
Age of Riches - Challenges of $600-a-Session Patients morning with the question
"what do you think and how does it relate to coaching?" I say "I think a couple of things".
*The first thing I'll say is that therapy is not coaching, coaching is not therapy and coaching shouldn't be a substitute for therapy, if therapy is needed and therapy shouldn't take the place of coaching if coaching is needed. The article was about therapy so I will only address my thoughts to general ones about topics in the article that you had questions about.
*The second thing I have to say is that I'm a firm believer in getting any kind of assistance one needs in order to have the most satisfying life possible. That assistance could be coaching, therapy, whatever it is that's necessary.
*The third thing I'll say is that each individual regardless of their circumstance brings individual issues into a coaching relationship.
*Moving on to the fourth thing I had a problem with some of the language in the article. Whenever it's a group of people with one thing in common....well, it sets up generalities that actually relate to many people.
*I don't think "in it to win" is a negative description (that one's for J). That's a personal thought and of course it depends on the situation. I do believe in, and work with my clients to achieve, a level of enjoyment and satisfaction from working toward goals and achieving goals.
*I think that people working with coaches or therapists will probably know more about their area of expertise than their coach or therapist (unless they happen to be in the same field and even then....) (that one is for M). I've worked with people in finance, the music industry and musicians, business, the arts, writers, directors, producers, people in sales, marketing, doctors, lawyers, government officials and agencies, educators, scientists, students, grad applicants and on and on. In each case I learned about the person's area of expertise even if it was an area I was trained or involved in. That's one of the great things about working with people in different fields - the things you learn.
*Being aware of life, mortality and legacy can work to assist people in really defining and focusing on what they find meaningful in their lives and how they want to move forward. (That one's for you R)
C and the rest of the emailers who have lots of questions. I hope I addressed some of them here and the rest we'll figure out later.
Enjoy the day your way,
Rebecca Kiki
*************************
Daily Life Consulting
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For more info on coaching or programs please call 646.468.0608 or email coach at dailylifeconsulting dot com
So to J, M, C, and R who emailed me links to the article in the New York Times
Age of Riches - Challenges of $600-a-Session Patients morning with the question
"what do you think and how does it relate to coaching?" I say "I think a couple of things".
*The first thing I'll say is that therapy is not coaching, coaching is not therapy and coaching shouldn't be a substitute for therapy, if therapy is needed and therapy shouldn't take the place of coaching if coaching is needed. The article was about therapy so I will only address my thoughts to general ones about topics in the article that you had questions about.
*The second thing I have to say is that I'm a firm believer in getting any kind of assistance one needs in order to have the most satisfying life possible. That assistance could be coaching, therapy, whatever it is that's necessary.
*The third thing I'll say is that each individual regardless of their circumstance brings individual issues into a coaching relationship.
*Moving on to the fourth thing I had a problem with some of the language in the article. Whenever it's a group of people with one thing in common....well, it sets up generalities that actually relate to many people.
*I don't think "in it to win" is a negative description (that one's for J). That's a personal thought and of course it depends on the situation. I do believe in, and work with my clients to achieve, a level of enjoyment and satisfaction from working toward goals and achieving goals.
*I think that people working with coaches or therapists will probably know more about their area of expertise than their coach or therapist (unless they happen to be in the same field and even then....) (that one is for M). I've worked with people in finance, the music industry and musicians, business, the arts, writers, directors, producers, people in sales, marketing, doctors, lawyers, government officials and agencies, educators, scientists, students, grad applicants and on and on. In each case I learned about the person's area of expertise even if it was an area I was trained or involved in. That's one of the great things about working with people in different fields - the things you learn.
*Being aware of life, mortality and legacy can work to assist people in really defining and focusing on what they find meaningful in their lives and how they want to move forward. (That one's for you R)
C and the rest of the emailers who have lots of questions. I hope I addressed some of them here and the rest we'll figure out later.
Enjoy the day your way,
Rebecca Kiki
*************************
Daily Life Consulting
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
For more info on coaching or programs please call 646.468.0608 or email coach at dailylifeconsulting dot com
Tuesday, June 17, 2008
Eyes Bloodshot, Doctors Vent Their Discontent - NY Times
Thanks Mark for emailing the article to me. I told you you're not alone!
Great article in today's NY Times Eyes Bloodshot, Doctors Vent Their Discontent . The title says it all.
For all those doctors out there, and those of you working with me, like I said to Mark you are not alone in your feelings of frustration, discontent (and on and on). The good news is that you can make changes in your lives. It doesn't mean "giving up" and it doesn't mean "failure" or a host of other words with negative connotations. It means change.
Quick Start Questions for today/this week;
* What is working? (besides you...)
* What isn't working? (besides everything else...)
* What do you see as obstacles to making changes?
* How badly do you want to make a change?
* What are you willing to do in order to make the change?
Feel free to send me your thoughts and concerns at kiki at dailylifeconsulting dot com.
Enjoy the day your way (start writing your own prescription for that!)
Rebecca (Kiki)
Daily Life Consulting
For more information on coaching, workshops, seminars, classes and materials for your group or company please call 646.468.0608 or email coach at dailylifeconsulting dot com
Great article in today's NY Times Eyes Bloodshot, Doctors Vent Their Discontent . The title says it all.
For all those doctors out there, and those of you working with me, like I said to Mark you are not alone in your feelings of frustration, discontent (and on and on). The good news is that you can make changes in your lives. It doesn't mean "giving up" and it doesn't mean "failure" or a host of other words with negative connotations. It means change.
Quick Start Questions for today/this week;
* What is working? (besides you...)
* What isn't working? (besides everything else...)
* What do you see as obstacles to making changes?
* How badly do you want to make a change?
* What are you willing to do in order to make the change?
Feel free to send me your thoughts and concerns at kiki at dailylifeconsulting dot com.
Enjoy the day your way (start writing your own prescription for that!)
Rebecca (Kiki)
Daily Life Consulting
For more information on coaching, workshops, seminars, classes and materials for your group or company please call 646.468.0608 or email coach at dailylifeconsulting dot com
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
The Falling Down Professions - NY Times - Follow- Up - Whoa!
Ok - I have gotten responses to posts but I must say that this was unbelievable. I've gotten so many emails with so many questions about coaching for this issue that I'm thinking about how to approach this issue in particular and perhaps developing aprogram especially for people in these two professions. Give me some time. The wheels are turning.....
In general I will say "yes" and "no" and "but" to all your questions and concerns.
YES!!!!!!!! You can make a change at any time of your professional life. YES you can have a rewarding, satisfying and enjoyable life starting now. YES you can make smaller changes while you make the big changes so that your daily life feels more comfortable and you liberate some of your energy, new ambitions and desires. Yes to a lot more....
NO. It doesn't mean it will be very, very easy or without any emotional or psychological conflict. There are sometimes conflicting feelings about whether to leave, why to leave, alternative career paths, familial, social and societal expectations to deal with. There are the whys and wherefores and the nitty gritty of making the change and the difficulties that sometimes come up.
BUT. You're not alone. I love working with clients through transitions. Having gone through them myself I know the difficulties that can come up. I know the issues. I also know how to work through them. I know how to guide, assist and support you in making the right change for you. It is my great pleasure to work with people and see them go on to shine in their chosen field and positions.
If I haven't answered you personally yet, I will do so within the next day or so.
Meanwhile, many of the email questions which I cannot and would not share here sounded much like that of James which he posted and which I've included here.
James asked - Is there really a way of transitioning from one of those professions? I've spent almost 20 years hating every day of it but having put all the energy and time into it, not to mention the financial rewards I'm not sure what the answer is.
Rebecca "Kiki" Weingarten M.Sc.Ed, MFA said...
Hi James,
Ok - not to make light of your question but have you spent the 20 years putting the energy into hating it - or into doing it? Hmmmm.
The financial rewards make it very very seductive and rewarding and therefore harder to make a change.
Now for an answer - yes it is possible to transition and you can transition while retaining some of the elements that are rewarding and positive. No need to throw away what you've done and achieved. You use the best parts of it and take them with you.
I don't have enough information about you or your situation to say more. If you'd like to email me some of the info or a question or to continue this conversation please feel free to email me at rebecca at dailylifeconsulting dot com
Good luck and try and enjoy whatever you can of the day,
RK
Hang in there everyone! You can make the change. I know it. I'm rooting for you!
Rebecca Kiki
In general I will say "yes" and "no" and "but" to all your questions and concerns.
YES!!!!!!!! You can make a change at any time of your professional life. YES you can have a rewarding, satisfying and enjoyable life starting now. YES you can make smaller changes while you make the big changes so that your daily life feels more comfortable and you liberate some of your energy, new ambitions and desires. Yes to a lot more....
NO. It doesn't mean it will be very, very easy or without any emotional or psychological conflict. There are sometimes conflicting feelings about whether to leave, why to leave, alternative career paths, familial, social and societal expectations to deal with. There are the whys and wherefores and the nitty gritty of making the change and the difficulties that sometimes come up.
BUT. You're not alone. I love working with clients through transitions. Having gone through them myself I know the difficulties that can come up. I know the issues. I also know how to work through them. I know how to guide, assist and support you in making the right change for you. It is my great pleasure to work with people and see them go on to shine in their chosen field and positions.
If I haven't answered you personally yet, I will do so within the next day or so.
Meanwhile, many of the email questions which I cannot and would not share here sounded much like that of James which he posted and which I've included here.
James asked - Is there really a way of transitioning from one of those professions? I've spent almost 20 years hating every day of it but having put all the energy and time into it, not to mention the financial rewards I'm not sure what the answer is.
Rebecca "Kiki" Weingarten M.Sc.Ed, MFA said...
Hi James,
Ok - not to make light of your question but have you spent the 20 years putting the energy into hating it - or into doing it? Hmmmm.
The financial rewards make it very very seductive and rewarding and therefore harder to make a change.
Now for an answer - yes it is possible to transition and you can transition while retaining some of the elements that are rewarding and positive. No need to throw away what you've done and achieved. You use the best parts of it and take them with you.
I don't have enough information about you or your situation to say more. If you'd like to email me some of the info or a question or to continue this conversation please feel free to email me at rebecca at dailylifeconsulting dot com
Good luck and try and enjoy whatever you can of the day,
RK
Hang in there everyone! You can make the change. I know it. I'm rooting for you!
Rebecca Kiki
Monday, January 7, 2008
The Falling-Down Professions - NY Times
The Falling-Down Professions by Alex Williams - great article. Doctors and lawyers that I work with are so conflicted by the different feelings they have about their work and the way it impacts their lives. Especially since they've devoted so much time and energy to becoming good/great at their professions and are highly driven and motivated. What now? What next? Am I losing the meaningful part of the work that I wanted? What sacrifices have I had to make personally and was it worth it? Can I change direction and lifestyle now? How can I change my lifestyle? How can I transition to a different way of working, living and possibly a different career track in the same field.
Williams describes the professions and the work world and how it's changed and with it changed people's attitudes. He also makes some terrific points about students attitudes to the work and careers. I come across it all the time with the college, graduate and post-graduate students I work with.
FYI - it's never too late to make a change. Your future is in front of you.
RK
Williams describes the professions and the work world and how it's changed and with it changed people's attitudes. He also makes some terrific points about students attitudes to the work and careers. I come across it all the time with the college, graduate and post-graduate students I work with.
FYI - it's never too late to make a change. Your future is in front of you.
RK
Tuesday, January 1, 2008
The New Year’s Cocktail: Regret With a Dash of Bitters - NY Times
Happy 2008 everyone! No, I'm not sure what I'm doing in front of the computer this morning...but this article is the perfect antidote to New Year's Day. The New Year’s Cocktail: Regret With a Dash of Bitters By BENEDICT CAREY
Love it. Some interesting insights about how to look at one's life and choices. Enjoy and we'll talk more tomorrow when it's not so, so, so New Year's Day-ish.
RK
Love it. Some interesting insights about how to look at one's life and choices. Enjoy and we'll talk more tomorrow when it's not so, so, so New Year's Day-ish.
RK
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